Attitude_Find & Maintain Good Friends

FIND AND MAINTAIN GOOD FRIENDS

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“Good friends are hard to find and even harder to keep“-Tim Lott

   

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By Henry Kazula,

Author: Mtazamo Wako Ni Upi?

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Friendship is good for a reason of being friend and being a good friend. Unmistakably, friends can make you do well and succeed in life or impede your success. Importantly, we need to have good friends to share good and bad time for the common good.

Tim Lott- a journalist and author once identified that “Good friends are hard to find and even harder to keep“. Evidently, most people find it difficult to find and maintain good friends due to number of challenges which are not limited to mismatching of mutual interests,lack of social skills, difference in expectation of friendship and lack of understanding on the reason for such a friendship. 

It should not be taken in another way around that you cannot get a good friend as Lott highlighted, No! ; Lott expressed his viewpoint on finding and maintaining good friendship to mean that there are important criterias you need to set and consider before you start and keep any friendship, mind that some form of friendship occur naturally without proper agreement.

Although, sometimes, it can be easy to have a friend naturally that matches our intuition but very hard to keep such a friendship. In my Swahili book- “Mtazamo Wako Ni Upi?“- "What’s your Attitude?“ in English, I’ve identified 5 groups of friends to stay away from or to avoid in order to assist you in finding and maintaining good friends so that to become successful in your life; 

i)   friends with self-interest

ii)  friends who speak about your secrets to other people

iii) friends who would rather have more time to hangout using your income than hard working

iv) friends who don’t want to reveal who they are but eagerly scrutinize to know your life in detail

v)  friends who frequently borrow money from you, when you need it, is a tragedy that can intimidate your friendship.

With such categories of friends; be careful to evaluate natural characteristics of friends you want to cling with.Remember, if you want to get and maintain good friends, be a good friend while taking into account the central reason of such a friendship; it should be a friendship that focus on two way benefits. Friendship that reside from oneside is a dead friendship that need to be burried in a deep valley.

Take into account to make a regular auditing of friends you have so that you maintain supportive friendship; it’s much better to bury a friendship that is not supportive.Again, avoid friends with negative mouth with negative thought. Flock together with friends of same feathers (those with positive mindset and expectations in life for success) for the common good.

Stay blessed with good friendship of your choice for success in life.Find a strategy to maintain such a friendship for the common good.

Published by Jielimishe Kwanza